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[glowsferatu]

If it should happen that you've been presented with this recording, then the likelihood that my availability would allow me to attend to your message is quite thoroughly absent. Luckily, you are fully capable of leaving your own recording in reply to this one, and should I not find myself so busy in the future I may have opportunity to hear it and adopt the appropriate reaction. Of course, there's only one method you can employ to discover if this duty will be ultimately fulfilled, so there's little need to waste time avoiding it. Mind the beep.

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[crab]

KANAYA, DO YOU REMEMBER WHAT YOU AND I TALKED ABOUT IN FEBRUARY, REGARDING RESPECT?

[glowsferatu]

Thanks For The Vote Of Confidence In Thinking I Hadnt Tried That
And Once Again Ill Raise The Point That Its Hard To Respect Someone Who Constantly Disrespects You

[crab]

MIGHT I REMIND YOU OF HER CIRCUMSTANCES, ONCE AGAIN.
HER PERCEPTION OF HOW YOU SEE HER, AND THE WAY YOU'VE BEEN TREATING HER IS EVERY BIT AS IMPORTANT AND VALID AS YOUR PERCEPTION OF THE OPPOSITE.
AND RIGHT NOW HER PERCEPTION IS THAT YOU SEE HER AS, AND I QUOTE, "A WIGGLER WHO NEEDS YOU TO WATCH OVER HER".
AND YOU AND I BOTH KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE THE DAMAGE A PERCEPTION LIKE THAT CAN DO TO A RELATIONSHIP LEFT UNCHECKED, EVEN IF IT IS INCORRECT.
SHE DOESN'T HATE YOU, KANAYA. I CAN TELL YOU THAT WITH FULL HONESTY.
SHE IS HURT, THOUGH, AND YOU CANNOT SIT THERE AND TELL ME THAT SHE HAS NO REASON TO BE.
YOU AND HER HAVE BOTH BEEN AT FAULT IN THIS SITUATION, AND IT'S TIME YOU STOPPED MAKING EXCUSES AND ADMITTED THAT FACT.

[glowsferatu]

Im Not Watching Over Her And Obviously She Doesnt Need Me To After This Long
But Empathy Respect And An Attempt To Meet Her On Any Level That Treats Her As Someone Capable Of Rationality Have All Only Been Thrown Back In My Face
Youre Taking This Tack Because You Think Her Position Is Comparable With Yours
It Isnt
Youre Also Not Seeing The Effort I Have Put In Because At This Point I Dont See A Point

You Want Me To Consider Her Circumstances And Act Accordingly But Thats A Dead End
Particularly When She Has Never Given Me That Same Courtesy
Why Are The Accommodations Always Expected Solely Of Me
Doesnt That In Itself Only Coddle Her As If She Isnt Capable Of Being Anything Short Of Selfish

[crab]

I'M TAKING THIS TACK BECAUSE I UNDERSTAND HOW SHE FEELS, AND WHERE SHE'S COMING FROM.
ALLOW ME TO DISPEL THIS CONSPIRACY THEORY YOU'VE COOKED UP REGARDING YOUR PERSONAL AND EXCLUSIVE PERSECUTION. I HAVE **ALREADY TOLD** NEPETA THAT THE WAY SHE HAS BEEN TREATING YOU HAS BEEN UNACCEPTABLE.
I BELIEVE I USED THE WORDS "COMPLETE BULLSHIT" TO DESCRIBE IT.
BUT QUITE HONESTLY, IF ANYONE IS ACTING LIKE A WIGGLER RIGHT NOW, IT'S YOU.
SHE WAS ABLE TO ADMIT THE FACT THAT SHE MIGHT HAVE BEEN WRONG.
YOU, ON THE OTHER HAND, CAN'T EVEN ENTERTAIN THE IDEA THAT THE EMPATHY, RESPECT AND ATTEMPTS YOU CLAIM TO HAVE TRIED TO GIVE HER MIGHT NOT HAVE BEEN VIEWED THE WAY YOU MEANT THEM.
THAT HER REACTIONS MIGHT HAVE *ANYTHING* TO DO WITH THE WAY SHE'S BEEN TREATED?

SHE HAS TAKEN EVERYTHING YOU'VE SAID OR DONE VAGUELY IN HER DIRECTION IN THE WORST OF FAITH, HASN'T SHE?
AND I CAN IMAGINE HOW FRUSTRATING THAT MUST HAVE BEEN TO DEAL WITH. I CAN'T SAY I WOULD HAVE HANDLED THE SITUATION ANY BETTER THAN YOU DID. PROBABLY WORSE, HONESTLY.
WE BOTH KNOW SHE'S BEEN WRONG TO TREAT YOU THE WAY SHE HAS BEEN.
BUT WHAT YOU'RE DOING RIGHT NOW IS THE EXACT SAME THING.
IF YOU CAN'T TRUST *HER*, THEN CAN YOU AT LEAST TRUST *ME*?
I HAVEN'T CODDLED HER, AND I'M NOT GOING TO CODDLE YOU.

[glowsferatu]

All Youve Been Saying To Me Is That Shes An Idiot And Overreacting But That Her Reasoning Is Sound
You Havent Seen A Single Fault In The Why So Much As The What
But You Come Back To Me After A Month Of Silence On The Matter And Point To All The Whys Being Entirely My Fault And Call Me Childish Because Im Not Contrite Enough
If We Are To Discuss Complete Bullshit Karkat Then There Is A Significant Example For You

Im Not For A Moment Pretending That I Hadnt Made Mistakes Here
But The Primary One That Triggered It
To Not Accept The Fantasy That It Could Be Changed
That Isnt One I Will Admit Fault To
Had I Done Otherwise It Would Have Been As Coddling And Condescending As She Attributes To What I Had Done

[crab]

WELL I'M INCREDIBLY SORRY FOR THE FACT THAT MY LIFE DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND PATCHING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, KANAYA.
YOU DIDN'T EXACTLY MAKE IT SEEM AS THOUGH YOU WERE EAGER FOR ME TO PURSUE THE MATTER IN NOVEMBER OK I WASN'T SURE HOW TO APPROACH THE SUBJECT AGAIN.
HER REASONING IS NOT SOUND. THAT'S NOT WHAT I'VE BEEN SAYING AT ALL.
I'VE BEEN TRYING TO TELL YOU THAT HER PERSPECTIVE IS *VALID*, AND THAT YOU CAN'T IGNORE IT JUST BECAUSE SHE'S BEING A SHITHEAD.
AS FOR THE PRIMARY MISTAKE THAT TRIGGERED IT, AS YOU PUT IT
FROM THE WAY SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT IT, IT WAS LESS YOUR DISAGREEING WITH HER, AND MORE THE WAY YOU DID IT THAT SET HER OFF.
IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN MORE DIPLOMATIC (AND YES I GODDAMN KNOW HOW IT SOUNDS FOR ME TO BE PREACHING DIPLOMACY) OF YOU TO HAVE JUST AGREED TO DISAGREE.

[glowsferatu]

How Did I Make It Sound To Really Set Her Off
That Makes It Sound As If I Was Arguing With Her About It And Treating Her Like An Idiot For Even Having Thought It
I Didnt Know If She Was Aware Already Of What Conditions Lachesis Applies On Return
All I Did Was Inform Her As I Said Before As Gently As Possible
There Was Nothing Undiplomatic About It

But When You Keep Emphasizing Her Circumstances Without Even Acknowledging Mine It Does Seem As Though You Are Excusing Her Reasoning And Calling It More Valid Than Mine
You Havent Said A Word To Acknowledge My Circumstances During That Time
And When You Already Have A History Of Ignoring Those What Am I Supposed To Think