the last time i tried to be honest or civil with you you attacked my values and called me crazy that isnt because i was on the attack i was simply explaining my position but i certainly didnt react kindly to it so i think that maybe you are not the person best suited to teaching this lesson and your rate of offense is possibly not as minor as you realize at the same time probably consider that you arent talking to me in a way one would to someone she doesnt think is stupid
of course the system and its people arent the same but the people will still be products of a system their actions and attitudes can at times not only reflect that system but perpetuate it i dont think its tremendously unreasonable to express frustration to those instances when that system and the attitudes it promotes are detrimental it may at times be the only means of defense we have against them and it isnt always going to be as polite as you wish
by all means understanding can be key to maintaining peace but there are times when it cannot be reliably employed what i find unreasonable is that you express an expectation for understanding when you have on numerous occasions failed to yourself extend it to others as someone who is made to cohabit with an alien species that has made little effort to understand her for years you have never been an exception to that difficulty more often yet another typical example
so if you want to lecture me on the importance of putting the work into bridging boundaries i will only remind you that those efforts must go both ways
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you attacked my values and called me crazy
that isnt because i was on the attack i was simply explaining my position
but i certainly didnt react kindly to it
so i think that maybe you are not the person best suited to teaching this lesson
and your rate of offense is possibly not as minor as you realize
at the same time probably consider that you arent talking to me in a way one would to someone she doesnt think is stupid
of course the system and its people arent the same
but the people will still be products of a system
their actions and attitudes can at times not only reflect that system but perpetuate it
i dont think its tremendously unreasonable to express frustration to those instances when that system and the attitudes it promotes are detrimental
it may at times be the only means of defense we have against them and it isnt always going to be as polite as you wish
by all means understanding can be key to maintaining peace
but there are times when it cannot be reliably employed
what i find unreasonable is that you express an expectation for understanding when you have on numerous occasions failed to yourself extend it to others
as someone who is made to cohabit with an alien species that has made little effort to understand her for years you have never been an exception to that difficulty
more often yet another typical example
so if you want to lecture me on the importance of putting the work into bridging boundaries
i will only remind you that those efforts must go both ways