i agree his methods and unwillingness to learn proper socialization is the issue but i dont think his subtlety is really a part of that if he actually knew how to deal with anyone then he wouldnt need to be subtle he just needs to weed out the creepiness
and while it may not be quite obsession it is certainly overinvestment but you know when you start going out of your way to follow someone the line between overinvestment and obsession becomes very thin it isnt even about information if you think he means to study you for the sake of some protective contingency that may at some point possibly become necessary or at least that he suspects might that isnt what he was after he even admitted as much to me
he just wanted some ammunition for some petty remark about your dancing in the future to go to those lengths for something so trivial that crosses right over the line of obsession
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but i dont think his subtlety is really a part of that
if he actually knew how to deal with anyone then he wouldnt need to be subtle
he just needs to weed out the creepiness
and while it may not be quite obsession it is certainly overinvestment
but you know when you start going out of your way to follow someone the line between overinvestment and obsession becomes very thin
it isnt even about information
if you think he means to study you for the sake of some protective contingency that may at some point possibly become necessary
or at least that he suspects might
that isnt what he was after
he even admitted as much to me
he just wanted some ammunition for some petty remark about your dancing in the future
to go to those lengths for something so trivial
that crosses right over the line of obsession